Reasons for non-urgency in marriage
It is good not to rush into marriage. There are men who have a very good physical condition. They have fixed and flat salaries in a good place. They are very ready for marriage. But the urgency of getting married is not a good idea. The man must ask himself, "Do I really want to marry this girl? "And" Will there come a day and regret it from marrying them? "There are many reasons why a marriage that is tainted by the wheel of a bad idea and these reasons are as follows:
1 - Previous experiences:
Childhood experiences and relationships plagued by emotional blackmail and abuse affect life and any problem that occurs increases the emotional balance because the man explains it based on painful past experiences.
The painful psychological conflicts must be resolved and the negative memories and the pain of separation must be eliminated before starting to marry so that this does not affect life with the other party.
Each partner has to ask himself some questions: "Am I hiding something from my partner?" And "Will this negatively affect our relationship?" And "Does my partner hide something from me?"
2 - Family couple:
After marriage, the family of the husband and wife is fused and the family is united. All parties must accept all parties. Both men and women should ask themselves, "Am I ready to be part of this family?" Is my family ready to welcome my partner? "He said.
The whole future in front of the couple and there are problems must be dealt with and must accept the difference of the parties from each other can be a party in the relationship loves travel and adventures and the other party does not like to get out of the house.
A solution must be found that satisfies all parties and each party has to ask itself, "Do I want to sacrifice my hobbies, who can spend more time with my life partner, and will the partner of life do that with me?"
4. Marriage is not a quick solution to the problems between the two partners:
One of the main reasons for not rushing to marry is a false belief Some people believe that marriage will solve all problems and will heal any cracks in the relationship, but after marriage there will be problems in one way or another but the preparations for marriage are distracting work and not focus on the two partners on these problems, marriage .
5 - not knowing the other party:
It is possible that each party may not know the other, as they imagine. They may have the same interests and hobbies as reading the same type of novels or loving some kinds of food, but this outer shell must recognize each other's beliefs, values, customs and goals. And when he wants it? Where does each party want to live? All these questions must be answered before marriage.
6. Fear of Unity:
When the age of marriage is too late, men and women feel lonely when they see that all around them have married and were born alone. They suffer from loneliness and spend their weekly leaves without a partner. This makes them rush to marry anyone so they can escape loneliness and this is an illogical reason for marriage.
7. Reasons for work:
No one can know his job in the coming years when a person in his twenties has an average career position, but when he was in his thirties his career stabilized and became more stable.
It is possible that at this stage that the woman is more successful than her husband, which causes some kind of jealousy in the husband, which creates many problems between the spouses if the woman did not deal effectively and correctly with the jealousy of its success.
It is also possible that the salary of a woman is lighter than her husband's salary and this of course makes the husband less confident in himself, which affects the relationship between them.
It is also possible that the marriage of women is a hindrance to the success of her work, it is possible to exclude women from work is important and vital because she is married and that she must be in her home at a certain date of the day.
It is clear that marriage is a very important decision in the life of the parties and must be taken with a kind of caution and care. It should not be rushed so as not to make reckless decisions that affect the life of the couple after marriage.
- 23 May, 2018
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