The period of engagement is one of the most beautiful periods experienced by both young and young and this period must be studied by each person's personal party to determine if the other can spend the rest of his life with him or not so the two parties should study the personalities of each other well and there are periods of engagement filled with love and respect and this engagement Very successful either if the period of engagement is not there love and affection and respect this period will be unsuccessful and do not succeed the relationship between the parties and do not culminate in marriage There are reasons behind the failure of the period of engagement, including:
Lack of interest in ethics:
Often the young man searches for the girl with the super beauty and does not care about her ethics and religion, customs and traditions, as the girl is often looking for a handsome young man with a distinguished function without looking at his ethics and behavior and religion, looking young and looking at each other looking outward appearances only and does not seek any of them qualities The interior of the other side and with this superficial look fail the relationship between the parties.
Lack of patience:
One of the main reasons that lead to the failure of the engagement period is the lack of patience. Most girls can not marry a young man with a low income or a young man who is not of the same social level. In this case, the girl seeks to break the engagement.
It may be one of the parties of the hesitant type of the same or uncertain of his choices as he may be kind of moody so that one of the parties can change his opinion on the other party quickly Vamah and tendency to not continue in these speeches.
A party may have a psychological contract that makes it not deal with the nature of the other party and can not get rid of this contract and this is very dangerous, because this party will not be able to act with anyone because he has a fear of dealing with other people so must seek this Party to get rid of this psychic contract.
There are some people have an introversion may be one of the parties do not prefer social interaction with others may be one of the parties do not prefer to respond positively to the other party and this can not be the other party to form a true idea about the personality partner of his life if one of the parties introverted Ftkl period of engagement between the parties and ends Separately.
Differences between the parties:
There may be significant differences between the two parties, for example there may be a difference in cultures and thinking, social and educational level makes one party to be arrogant on the other party or the feeling of the other party that less than his partner, this arises many problems between the parties so that the period of engagement is full of differences and ends Separately.
Excessive jealousy, which leads to doubt of the worst things and most of the things that lead to separation, whether in the period of engagement or marriage, this jealousy of one of the parties feel the other party not to trust his life partner and also lack confidence in his speech or in any of the work carried out and ends It is between the two parties with each other's boredom and separation.
When one of the parties is very critical of the other party and always blame him for his actions, this affects the other party loss of confidence itself and arises a lot of differences between the two parties because the criticism is a lot is unlikely.
Subjugation and obedience:
There are many girls do not prefer submission and obedience to the other party, it causes her a lot of problems in her marital life and makes her life in the period of engagement or after marriage become a failed life because it is designed on her opinion, even if it is wrong and never accept the implementation of her husband's views end her life in most cases Failure and separation.
One of the parties may be weak and can not make decisions on his own and always awaits the other party to direct and act is in various things and take all decisions and this may be annoying to the other party resort to not continue in these engagement.
The parties must choose their partner rationally and do not rush to take the decision of engagement and marriage because the order of engagement and marriage is important and to choose the person who fits with his personality and customs and traditions so that life between them is successful and goes properly between the parties.
- 18 May, 2018
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