Engagement and borders
Engagement is an important stage in the lives of people. It is the stage through which the two parties know each other well. Khatubah is the bridge through which the Khatibis pass from the stage of celibacy to the stage of marriage and the establishment of the family. The engagement stage is a stage of emotional, social and psychological rapprochement between the Khatibs, You can not beat it ..
For example, it is not permissible for two khutbahs to go out on their own, and the khateebin can not speak in their talk to a group of jails that are outside our traditions and religion, and the khateebin are not allowed to deal with the husband as the husband is still foreign to his fiancee and vice versa
The Almighty said: (And follow the steps of the devil) Satan will analyze everything for you ...
At this time there are many temptations and desires and abounding abuses, the Khatibin keen diligence to strengthen God in their relationship because many of the cases of annulment occur because of the mistakes of the parties or the indulgence of the girl and exceeded in some things
So we offer both parties advice to follow in the engagement stage:
1 - For Khatib
The young man must realize that engagement is a stage of acquaintance between the two parties and the convergence between them and know each other, through this stage the young man recognizes the ethics and the nature and personality of his fiancée and asks if she is the right girl for me? Is the wife who will complete my life with me?
Therefore, the young man must not be deterred from this goal of engagement, he must fear God in his actions and in his relationship with his fiance so that God enlightens their path and brings them closer to each other in the event that their marriage is good for them, and in the case of incompatibility they will be good after them because God wanted it and The case of ending the engagement will be respected and appreciated by each party.
2 - for fiancee
The girl must be fully aware that engagement is only a bridge to a successful marital life, God willing, and to cross this bridge must pass with confidence and not to lose respect for herself and documented her family in it and most importantly not to rush to her relationship with her Lord and all this urges abuses that may be allowed by some girls In her relationship with her fiancé
So you have to behave with maturity and responsibilities in order to preserve your respect and your pride and confidence around you and to make me a point only one is that engagement is a stage of convergence and acquaintance between the parties and not the stage of moral transgression between the Khatibin and to always strengthen God and his fear is the slogan Khatibin God said: And whoever fears Allah will make him a way out, and he will bring him out from where he is not counted, and whoever trusts in God,
So Ali Khatibin take into account God in their relationship and know that the stage of engagement stage of the convergence of emotional between the two parties, but Malayakhalf God's law and the traditions of our religion.
- 25 May, 2018
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