Secrets of Successful Marriage Part II
There is no doubt that a successful marriage must work for the couple to succeed by making an effort where successful marriage is not without problems and obstacles, but there is a successful way to overcome these problems and obstacles life is full of different pressures, but the way we deal with these pressures is to determine whether the marriage Successful or not.
Magic recipe for successful marriage include:
1. Intimate relationship:
There is no doubt that intimacy is an inseparable part of a successful marriage and the number of intimacy times a week is left to the couple. Each couple is a special case and they set their own standards that are commensurate with their lives, priorities and time.
2 - openness to the other:
The two are engaged in discussion, participation, debate and opposition. They talk about things that are of interest to both parties, even on difficult subjects. Effective communication skills are also very important in conducting conversations and also actively listening to the other side to solve problems.
Successful marriage is based on developing each side of the same through reading and knowledge and attend seminars and training courses and knowledge of the shortcomings in order to reduce them and knowledge of the advantages in order to strengthen and invest for the sake of change for the better and adapt to working life and marital life.
4- Love acts not words:
Love is not the meaning of words and meanings hollow, but love is an act that exposes the feelings of the couple's love and mercy and protection of the husband to his wife and the giving of women and compassion and understanding between the spouses are all acts and not words and commitment is considered an act and not just a statement.
Each party is not responsible for the happiness of the other. Happiness is an inner feeling that the individual feels from within and from his own perspective and self-confidence. Happiness is based on ideas, not on events. Happy individuals feel the same number of negative feelings experienced by unhappy individuals. But the difference here is that happy people can quickly overcome their negative feelings, but the unfortunate people leave the negative emotions accumulate and accumulate until they become heavy burden on them. Happiness in life is constantly changing, as the curve rises and falls.
6 - Women lead the relationship but her husband feels that he is the leader:
This is in order for the husband to achieve the wishes and demands of his wife while preserving the water of his face by giving the woman two choices and leave him free choice, for example say the woman to her husband go to the Chinese restaurant or the Italian restaurant? At this moment will choose a selection of them and says his wife actually choose a successful and give his decision and here the man will feel his regrets and that he is responsible for taking the decision, while the real responsible for the decision is the woman and here the woman is happy because her husband has achieved her demand that you wish.
7 - The wife should not tell her husband to spend time with the children:
There is no doubt that the father and mother each plays a different role in the life of the child and each has its own position in raising the child and his beliefs and views and methods in the upbringing of the child and father has a way of dealing with the child is different from the way the mother deals with the child. The father spends considerable time in his work on the expense of his family time and his time with the children in order to secure a decent life and secure the expenses of renting the house, food, clothing and teaching children
8 - Accept the other:
Successful marriage is based on acceptance of the other and the realization that behind each behavior is good intention when the owner and that the behavior assigned at a certain moment is the appropriate behavior from the point of view of the individual on the basis of his experiences and values and beliefs and objectives and mission in life. The couple must accept each other and not try to change the other party because this attempt to change the destruction of the relationship and make the individual in a defensive and feel the lack of confidence himself and that does not admire the other party enough to resist the attempt to change and also is accustomed to behave in a certain way in certain situations becomes Difficult to change. When a wife accepts her husband, he does not fear rejection when he begins to show his strengths instead of hiding the weaknesses and acting out of trust and not out of fear, the husband needs someone who understands and believes in it.
Tolerance is freedom from the sense of wound. If each party continues to commit itself to remaining in pain because it wants to explain to the other party the amount of pain caused by it or act in a defeatist way and justify the pain by representing the role of the victim, it makes a serious mistake. If the other party felt remorse for what he had done and apologized most likely he did not mean the wound in the first place, the individual needs to be tolerated and forgive others to the extent to which they deserve to forgive him.
It is clear that there are secrets to successful marriage and when we follow them, we will feel better in our relationship with the other party. Marriage is based on a relationship between two parties and on the parties understanding, respect, acceptance and trust in each of them in order to live happily.
- 23 May, 2018
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